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What Every Woman Must Do After a Breakup

.After a breakup, especially a devastating one, some of us ladies can’t help but fall into a rut. In this blog post, let’s talk about the number 1 thing that keeps you stuck after a terrible heartbreak from a bad breakup.

The number one reason why you can’t let it go is that deep down inside. You want to know that he paid for what he did to you.

Now, I know you don’t want to have to talk about this or even think about it, so I’ll admit it for you. 


This is my story

I remember when I was dating a guy. At the time, I thought I would be the Mrs. To me, the relationship had really great potential for a future.

Until his very pregnant fiance walks into a very nice restaurant and publicly clowns on me. It just publicly humiliates me, shreds all my confidence, and destroys my dignity. 

It hurt really bad. 

My heart was devastated and for a long time, I thought surely if there’s any justice in the world, that joker pays for what he did.


Well, here’s what I learned: 

First, reaping and sowing are real.

God said vengeance belongs to Him. Let him fight that battle.

I don’t need to do that.  I can let that go because when you don’t let it go, here’s

what happens: you end up with emotional baggage.

You end up with emotional clutter and you end up with residue. And what that does is that it holds you back from attracting a great guy— a quality guy. 

Because if you did meet a really great guy, he’s not going to be able to penetrate the walls and deal with all of the baggage. You’ve got to unravel that baggage. You’ve got to get rid of the emotional clutter and the relationship residue. And you do that by cutting that emotional cord that’s still keeping you connected with the guy who did you wrong.

And no, he may not be a part of your everyday life but deep down inside, you’re still emotionally attached. 

It’s like an invisible cord that’s connected between your head, your heart, and his.  You’ve got to let that go. Because the longer you hold on to it (this I know for a fact), the longer you’re delaying your ability to attract a great guy and make a great connection.

Now, if you’re thinking, “Well, Stacey, he never even apologized for what he did.”

Well, guess what? My guy didn’t either.


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But here’s what I know: when a guy is low enough to do you wrong like that, why would you think he would be upstanding enough to offer you an apology?

He doesn’t have it in his wheelhouse. It’s not in his capacity and I don’t want you to let his character flaws and misgivings interfere with you or disrupt you any longer.

Now, I’ve coached women who are still 2, 3, even 4 years out of heartbreak. They’re still holding on to it. But until you get rid of it, you’re going to wonder why you keep attracting all these horrible guys.  

Those guys who are emotionally unavailable and don’t want to invest their time, energy, or emotions into you. But that’s what you attract when you have relationship residue.

If you can honestly say, “You know what? I’m getting a handle on this.” Right now, what I want you to do is I want you to leave me a comment below and let me know that you’re ready to let go and cut that emotional cord. 

Because you and I both know that you want to attract a quality guy and remember reaping and sowing are real. You don’t have to ride a gunshot over what happens to him. 

It’s time you let that go, wish him well, and move forward!


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